Bi-coastally Yours

This September marks a strange anniversary for me.  I've been a West coast girl eighteen years, which is as long as I was an East coast girl.

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My mother was a West coaster, and she married my father, from Connecticut.  She always told me that when you marry a New Englander, you marry the land.  We don't leave our home or our ways easily, that's for sure.  Except after eighteen years of it, I was ready to be free.

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I moved for school and I stayed.  At first I was overwhelmed by every single aspect of this great big place called California.  But once I tamed it, in my own psyche, I was just smitten.  I couldn't think of anywhere else as home.  

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My goodness, the years crept by.  Two marriages and three children later, I'm at this unexpected anniversary.  It's kind of like a birthday, except way more emotional and symbolic.

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Solidarity to my bi-coastal people.  It isn't easy to love two places so much, but it's worth it.


Madewell jeans // Clarks shoes // Photos by Bradley Wittke

About a Girl

There's this weird dilemma in style blogging: are you a salesgirl, or are you an artist?  As the years wear on, I know myself better and better, and I just can't stick with a vanilla narrative. I'm much happier in edgier intellectual territory.

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I have actually shot a fair amount of boudoir material in the past, but I haven't brought it into my blog because I wasn't totally sure if I wanted to invite all that comes with pushing those creative boundaries into my space.  However, I love this Marlies Dekkers pinstriped set too much not to share it.

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So much of sharing a boudoir look is about being comfortable with your own vulnerability.  If somebody doesn't like your sweater, it's pretty easy to walk away from any feelings that brings.  But if someone doesn't like you, at your essence, it isn't always as simple to find your way back toward a peaceful state of mind.

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After my children were born, I lost a lot of weight.  So much, in fact, that I couldn't even fit in the smallest sizes at most stores, and found myself shopping in the children's department.  It is a challenge to be an underweight person amidst an obesity epidemic.  At my thinnest, I received countless compliments on my figure, often coupled with enthusiastic questions about "how I do it!" and even once was told that I should feel lucky I didn't have a "real" problem.  I struggled to answer when my personal health was at stake and I was desperately trying to regain at least some of what I had lost. 

After nearly seven years of effort, I have found my way back to a healthy weight.  I have been compassionate toward my body even during the most challenging moments of weight loss. Among women, I am fortunate that self-love actually comes pretty easily, despite the struggles.

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Thanks to my friend Kate at French Theft in Los Gatos for letting me shoot in her beautiful shop, and thanks for reading! 

Venice Vibes

Happy Thursday, everyone!

Today I am sharing an easy, elevated look for fall, created with a mix of classic, timeless pieces.

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I find high-waisted pants to be one of the most universally flattering styles.  For this look, I am wearing the Kelly High Waisted Pant by Tobi.  Striped boatneck tops are classic for a reason; they look neat, tidy, and organized with just about any outfit, and they lend a timeless feel to outfits.  I've been wishing for a striped Comme des Garcons top in red or yellow, but the price point is on the steep side for a cotton tee.  In the meantime, I'm really into this bold J.Crew version I am wearing here. 

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I was looking through old photos recently and came across one of my Dad wearing a gray wool Greek fisherman cap. I remember begging him to borrow it when I was in high school because I was just in love with it.  This Goorin Bros. cap in black wool is amazingly similar and I can already tell it will be my go-to hat for cooler weather.

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Thanks for reading! Have a wonderful Thursday, everyone.