Buckle your readbelts, we are getting serious today.
A casual friend asked me recently about how I keep my “amazing figure” and it re-opened the floodgates on everything I wrote in this post last year.
Because this question has been one I have never figured out how to answer, I spent an entire day thinking about what to say. Part of me wishes there were some quick, witty go-to I could use over and over again (because I get this question far too often). Part of me wishes I could just be real and spill the truth and that doing so would be socially normal. And all of me wishes people would just stop talking about my body with assumptions embedded in their comments that I have easy answers and want to speak casually about what has actually been an exhausting journey.
After I spent the day mulling over the best reply, I realized I needed to just stop overthinking it. Like any of the most difficult problems, I wasn’t going to solve it quickly, or on my own. To protect myself, and still feel honest and authentic, I simply replied, “I exercise.”
And that was the end of the conversation.
I heard an interview with Patti Smith a few years ago where she discussed, among other things, her relationship with death, and I have found that her observations resonate with struggle and hardship beyond the loss of a loved one:
“The idea that time heals all wounds is not really true. Our wounds aren't really ever healed. We just learn to walk with them. We learn that some days we're going to feel intense pain all over again…And, you know, life is the best thing that we have. We each have a life. We each have to negotiate it and navigate it. And I think it's very important that we enjoy our life, that we get everything we can out of it.”
Despite life’s inevitable trials, I am joyful.
Gratitude abounds, friends. Thanks for reading.