I dug up the old byline of this blog from when I first started it to see if I’ve been true to my original vision (not that I am by any means averse to the process of evolution. Let’s please evolve! But let’s not do so without some sensible guidance). With that, let’s move along to the original byline, which was “proper by day, glam by night.”


This is as core to my sartorial (do we just hate that word by now? Like a cool song ruined by too many call-in requests on the radio) preferences now as it was when I started. Parenthetical asides seem also to be as core to my literary preferences now as when I started, by the way.


A good friend of mine described to me once how she sees healthy evolution in a romantic relationship. “It’s like there’s a very flexible elastic band binding the two of you together,” she explained, “and it can accommodate either person stretching quite a ways in his or her own direction before it starts to develop any tension. And the tension should just very gently bring the one who has gone so far slightly back on course, so both of the individuals can grow, and the relationship grow, too.”

It’s the best advice I’ve ever received about how to participate in a relationship, and it has served me well not only in evaluating the process of my life with my husband, but also my children, my friends, my colleagues, and even this blog.


Here’s to evolving, while also staying true to what really matters. Thanks for reading, and happy Sunday, everyone!

Vintage Catherine Regehr dress // Thrifted clutch (no brand) // Kate Spade boots // J.Crew earrings (last season) // Miansai cuff (similar)


Lately I’ve been really leaning in on compassion. And it’s in direct response to what feels like an increasing amount of discontent and hostility in the universe. Perhaps it was simply mars in retrograde, but my gosh, what a tense month or so it’s been. 


It’s only compassion that ever gets us anywhere. Getting even or worse - trying to get the upper hand - just keeps us on the hamster wheel of discontent (awkward analogy?). Plus it’s ugly. We don’t know anyone’s story, really , but own own. And chances are the person who is the meanest to you has had the toughest lot in life. It’s like that, isn’t it?


On a lighter note, I have been looking everywhere for a pair of simple brown frame / brown lens glasses and this pair from Flower Eyewear is really doing it for me.


Thanks for reading! Have a wonderful Labor Day weekend.

Madewell jeans (past season) // Flower sunglasses // Kate Spade boots // Fleur du Mal bodysuit

Fall Feels

Happy fall, everyone! Let's just go ahead and proclaim it! No sense in avoiding the inevitable, especially when the inevitable is the best season of the year!


Fall is my favorite season.  I really don't love being cold in winter (got enough of that growing up.  If you have to start the car to warm it up before driving it, count me out) but I do love being pre-cold.  Which is exactly what fall has to offer.  I like putting on light layers and then shedding them like a butterfly emerging from a chrysalis as the day unfolds into warmer temperatures.  Plus, my hands-down favorite silhouette is covered arms and exposed legs, which is more or less the perfect fall uniform.


Do people everywhere spend a lot of time talking about seasons and the weather? Because I sure do.  I think part of it might be related to growing up in a place with four distinct seasons per year, and watching them change is historically related to the success of your crops and your harvest and whatnot.  And nowadays, a big part of my daily grind is making sure I am intimately familiar with the 10-day forecast at all times.  Maybe I missed my calling as a meteorologist.  Also, not sure I like the phrase "daily grind." Probably won't be using that one again.


Thanks for reading! Have a wonderful Sunday.

Uniqlo sweater (old) // Levi's shorts // Clarks sandals // The Sak bag // Armani sunglasses (old)