Reflections on 2016

"You have learnt something.  That always feels at first as if you have lost something." -George Bernard Shaw

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As the years march on, I realize with more and more certainty that we need not judge them as "good" or "bad" years; just as we need not judge any of the moments of life.  To be present is enough.  I do not deny the true times of heartbreak, grief, ecstasy, and pleasure that come along. I simply invite them in, honor them, and choose to seek and keep the moments which feel the best. 

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I did a lot of work on learning not to sweat the small stuff this year. And in doing so, I found that I actually excelled at what I had always been trying to achieve. A lot of interests vie to be top priority. Ask the dentist, and it seems oral hygiene should be my first and foremost concern. Ask the teacher, and getting the kids to school on time should be number one on my list of things to do right. Ask the doctor, and gaining eight pounds (yes that's right) should be where I'm putting my effort. And so on.

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It is impossible to do everything right all of the time, and trying to do it all is a recipe for a very unhappy existence.  As I have learned to embrace this truth, I have found, the closer I am to actually achieving so many intentions.

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In 2017, I want to continue to practice self-care and self-appreciation. I want to consciously raise children who are compassionate, creative, and funny. I want to remember that love is the best tonic for the anger and sadness that life hands us. We cannot control life's storms, but we can always steer the boat with an eye toward calm waters.

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2016, thank you for all you have taught me. Gratitude abounds.  2017, I'm coming to get you.